Life with a narcissist

As I mentioned before, my childhood was not a happy one. It was pretty much hell. Most of that misery was caused by having to grow up with parents who were mentally ill. Not that our friends and colleagues who struggle with mental illness are bad people. It’s that people with untreated personality disorders are bad people. Pretty much none of them can stand to have children around.

My father was an asshole, a full blown narcissist.

Trump’s attacks on Florida Democratic Rep. Frederica Wilson, a close family friend for decades, started earlier this week, when Wilson described a Tuesday phone conversation between Trump and Johnson’s widow, Myeshia Johnson, during which Trump said Johnson “knew what he signed up for.”…

Wilson was in the car with the fallen soldier’s family when Trump called, and the family has since confirmed that her description of the call, which took place on speakerphone, was accurate. They’ve also made it clear that it was at their request that Wilson was with them. Johnson’s mother also spoke out, saying Trump had disrespected the family with his call.

This habit of making painfully inappropriate comments in delicate situations is a classic. Narcissists neither notice what sort of mood you’re in nor do they particularly care. At all.

But they certainly notice when anyone complains about their bizarre demeanor. And it usually takes a fair bit of ‘noticing’ before they’re in any way interested in making amends for whatever pain they’ve caused.

Timothy Eckels Sr. hadn’t heard anything from President Trump since his son Timothy Eckels Jr. was killed after a collision involving the USS John S. McCain on August 21. But then, on October 20, two days into the controversy over the president’s handling of a condolence call with an American soldier’s widow, Eckels Sr. received a United Parcel Service package dated October 18 with a letter from the White House.

“Honestly, I feel the letter is reactionary to the media storm brewing over how these things have been handled,” Eckels told The Atlantic. “I’ve received letters from McCain, Mattis, and countless other officials before his. I wasn’t sure if the fact that the accident that caused Timothy’s death has still yet to officially have the cause determined played into the timing of our president’s response.”

I suppose that any condolences from the president, even shame- bad publicity-induced ones, are better than none. But you can be sure now about one thing, as narcissists are just this way. Congresswoman Wilson will always be near the top of Trump’s eternal shitlist.

In a series of tweets Saturday morning, Trump once again lashed out at Wilson. His vicious comments are just the latest in a now five day assault on [Sgt. La David] Johnson’s loved ones.

In one tweet, Trump referred to Wilson as “wacky” and said she “is killing the Democrat party.”

A short time later, Trump quote-tweeted a photo of Wilson standing with President Obama, writing “People get what is going on!”…

Based on the replies to Trump’s tweets, people do know what’s going on — and they’re disgusted to see him using his role as commander in chief to politicize the death of a fallen soldier…

There is no such thing as Making A Mistake. There is no such thing as I Guess I Goofed. But there is always I Will Get You For This.

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